It’s annoying when others who have no clue what you are feeling will look you in the eye and tell you to “suck it up”- to “move on”, and the ever famous, “just get over it!”
Duh! If I could just “get over it” don’t you think I would? Wouldn’t everyone? I don’t know of many people who are actual suckers for punishment and/or torment. So please-STOP TELLING PEOPLE THIS!
I am an advocate for healing, and “sucking it up” is not synonymous with healing in my book. When we experience trauma, hurt, loss, grief or any kind of discomfort, distracting ourselves from what we are feeling is not the answer. It could never be. We have to feel what we feel and work through what we feel in order to heal.
Social media has turned many into psychologists and therapists, and many of these need to just take a seat. Life teaches hard lessons sometimes, but it is important to be honest with ourselves. I don’t care if you want to be dishonest with your family members, friends, or your neighbors-but it’s imperative that you/we are honest with ourselves. Where ever you go, there you are so be whole.
Healing has no time limit so be kind to yourself and take all the time you need. It might feel liken labor pains but the end result will be magical. Just like the baby! Take no advise from those who tell you to “distract yourself”. All this shoving things under the rug instead of dealing with them will get the rug lumpy. Eventually-ya gonna trip. So here I go-healing and happy. My rug is smooth and I am feeling my feels. Look — that’s the light at the end of the tunnel I was looking for.
God a God!
